Can a Muslim woman get married with an Alawi Muslim?
A Brief Description of the Question:
I was about to get married with a man who proclaims himself as an Alawi Muslim. But then he left me because he thinks that we are not align in way of thinking as I told him that I belong to none of the sects, instead I am just a Muslim who believes in Allah and Prophet Muhammad and all islamic practices as mentioned in Qur'an. Let Allah only jugde my religious level as I dont want to fall into division within Islam. Why is it very hard to approach an Alawi? and why their belief is full of secret?
The Answer:
Because a Muslim woman can marry only a Muslim man, we first need to know who a Muslim is. A Muslim is the one who accepts all the definite principles of the religion of Islam and does not deny any one of them. In other words, s/he is the one who accepts and believes in such commands as fasting, obligatory alms (zakat), pilgrimage, ritual ablution, Ghusl (full ablution), and accepts such prohibitions as adultery, alcohol, interest. However, one who does not accept all or some of them is not deemed a Muslim and it is not permitted to marry such a person. If a marriage takes place, then it is religiously illegal. No matter if that is named Sunni or Alawi.
As is seen, the criterion of marriage is Islam. Unfortunately, today, many Muslim women, either in Turkey or in other countries, marry a non-Muslim man, without asking the authorities and without learning about Islam's decree thereabout, and put themselves in a situation deserving of Allah's curse until the Last Hour. (Halil GÜNENÇ, Günümüz Meselelerine Fetvalar II. 119)
Questions have been asked about this topic for some time and answers have been expected. First, I want to highlight a point:
We are not supportive of aggravating the conflict of Alawi-Sunni, and of causing separation.We support unity and solidarity. Nobody benefits from aggravating conflicts and from exasperating different views and thus harming our unity, but everybody incurs damage that way. We know it that way and so we believe.
Actually, there is no religious drawback in a Muslim's or a Muslim order's taking Caliph Ali's affection as essence for their path. On condition that one does not insult/humiliate other companions of The Prophet, that one performs one's prayers, fasts, and carries out other responsibilities in the light of The Qur'an and the Sunnat (the practice of Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon him), there is no drawback in taking the affection toward Ali and Ahl'al-Bayt as guide. Indeed, a real Alawi who knows The Qur'an and the Sunnat and follows them as is required knows only Allah as God. S/he knows himself/herself as an individual of the community of Islam, knows our Prophet (Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)) as the Last Prophet, and knows The Qur'an as the Last Holy Scripture.
The only solution to end this artificial separation is to enter the light of The Qur'an and to accept it as the sole criterion. Allah says in The Qur'an: “And hold fast all together to the rope of God, and never be divided.” (The Qur'an, Al-'Imran, 3:103) and commands all Muslims to gather around The Qur'an.
With this understanding, I will try to give the answer to the question:
Firstly, we need to define what the Alawi Order means so that we can come up with a proper judgment. Indeed, what is the Alawi Order? Yes, that is the question we search an answer for. If we determine what the Alawi Order is, then the matter is solved, and we can answer by saying: “It is suitable to marry, or it is not.” However, the understanding of the Alawi Order in our country is neither single nor clear. I listened to the understanding of the Alawi Order of some of its representatives on Samanyolu TV.
If that is what the Alawi Order is, then it is religiously appropriate to marry and there is benefit in being relative with them. Then we can get to know each other and come to an understanding.
Those elders (elder (dede) is the special Turkish word for the Order's religious persons) say:
The Alawi Order cannot be outside of The Qur'an. It cannot be understood contrary to the Sunnat. It cannot be interpreted as opposing the lifestyle of The Prophet; in The Alawi Order, all religious commands such as prayers, fasts, pilgrimage, zakat (obligatory alms) are present.Those who claim otherwise want to manipulate the Alawi Order according to their own intentions. One must not be beguiled by their tricks and those who wish to exhibit Alawi as outside of Islam must not be given any credence.
The Alawi Order cannot be outside of The Qur'an. It cannot be understood contrary to the Sunnat. It cannot be interpreted as opposing the lifestyle of The Prophet; in The Alawi Order, all religious commands such as prayers, fasts, pilgrimage, zakat (obligatory alms) are present.Those who claim otherwise want to manipulate the Alawi Order according to their own intentions. One must not be beguiled by their tricks and those who wish to exhibit Alawi as outside of Islam must not be given any credence.
If that's how The Alawi Order is, then we don't have anything to say. We regard them as brothers of religion and even overlook their certain flaws and shortcomings. For all of us have flaws and shortcomings of deeds.
However, if that's not the case and The Alawi Order is as some claim it to be... In other words:
If there are no prayers, fast, zakat; if they understand their worships as only matters of heart and deny five daily prayers; if they base their views on disregard to the Rightful Caliphs of Allah's Messenger, if they aim at keeping enmity alive by bringing up certain historical events; especially if they do not accept Ghusl (full ablution), which is obligatory, and if they do not see it appropriate to take bath after the state of janabat (an unclean state of body caused by discharge of semen or sexual intercourse)... that somebody who does not accept those things and somebody who accepts live together in a peaceful family and be happy with love is both impossible by reason and improper by religion.
Today, when it is difficult even for those sharing the same culture to live peacefully, how realistic it is to suppose that people from different cultures can live a peaceful happy family life, one should think.
Therefore, I say: “It is necessary that how the parties understand The Alawi Order should first be determined.”
If they take The Qur'an as essence as our Holy Book, if they accept that the meaning of The Qur'an is explained in the Sunnat, if they know the lifestyle of Allah's Messenger and of Ahlul-Bayt (The Prophet's Household) as exemplary, then we don't have separation between us in essence. It is possible to tolerate other differences.
One who accepts the obligations (fard) in Islam is a believer. And one, who does not accept, is a denier. It is possible to determine that by meeting and talking. It is prejudice to come to hasty judgments without seeing and talking.
I want to highlight another important point:
The one who interprets the Alawi Order inside Islam is our brother in religion; and the one who understands it as outside of Islam is our citizen. We want to live in reciprocal respect with our citizen, too. It is a requisite of our being Muslim, as well.
The Order of Alawi cannot be outside of The Qur'an. It cannot be understood contrary to the Sunnat.
It cannot be interpreted as opposing the lifestyle of The Prophet. In The Alawi Order, all religious commands such as prayers, fasts, pilgrimage, and zakat are present. Those who claim otherwise want to manipulate The Alawi Order according to their own intentions.
One must not be beguiled by their tricks and those who wish to exhibit Alawi as outside of Islam must not be given any credence... It is our duty to love and respect those whom Allah's Messenger saw as worthy bridegroom and as worthy father-in-law.
Ahmet Şahin, Aile İlmihali, Cihan Yayınları
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